Emotional Acceptance: Not Feeling OK is Perfectly OK

For as long as I can remember, we have been indirectly taught by our social construction NOT to feel negative emotions. From a very young age, we get emotionally invalidated in so many ways until that becomes our norm. We get told not to cry or not to get angry, which teaches us to avoid unpleasant feelings at any cost. With continuous practice, following what we have been taught to be the right thing, we get programmed to send our negative emotions to the subconscious mind where they get manifested into other forms.

Phantom Acceptance of Mental Labels

With a large number of ‘mental illnesses’ enlisted in the DSM, differentiation between bad habits that have turned into destructive behaviours and actual diseases has been lost. Plus, the DSM does not tackle the chicken-egg dynamic, portraying certain ‘illnesses’ to have been caused solely by genetics and biochemical imbalances, which may not necessarily be the case. David Bailey, a hypnotherapist and life coach at SOAS believes that “…science mixed with the pseudo-science of psychology has also had some detrimental effects in perpetrating popular misconceptions. The idea that something like depression, anxiety or a phobia is an actual “thing” like a stomach ulcer. Rather than a conceptual framework for describing a manifestation of thought is, in [his] opinion, problematic.”